Three Distinct Habits That Will Help You Stop Feeling Like a Loser.

Independent professionals have jobs that most people in the marketplace can’t or wouldn’t do. Because in many ways choosing to be a professional also means choosing to risk everything.

It’s one thing to become a lawyer, financial advisor, or coach. It’s another thing all together to become truly successful at it. Because not only do we have to master our craft, but we also have to figure out how to market, promote and sell ourselves.

We have to learn how to develop enough new business to satisfy our piggy bank, investment portfolio, the tax man, business expenses, capital investments, our families basic needs and let’s not forget our wants.

Not to mention all the other hats we have to wear while we figure out how to properly manage the front end, and the back end of our business.

Unfortunately, far too many of us never figure it out — and languish under the weight of unmet expectations, and the demons who taunt and torture us because of it.

I felt like a loser

I’ve been there. It sucks when the voices in your head taunt and torture you. They’ll use every trick in the book to persuade you that you are a loser. That you don’t have what it takes. That you suck.

My demon use to ask me, “How is it that you can be so good at doing what you do, and suck so badly and finding people to do it for?”

I might have been OK with this kind of abuse, had he been nice enough to tell me exactly what it was I was so good at.

See that’s part of their strategy. They want to confuse you, to cloud your judgement, to make the path invisible, to turn you on yourself so that you’ll self destruct.

But here is what I discovered on my journey.

It’s not the big things that make all the difference. It’s the little things done with excellence and consistency.

Let me repeat that.

It’s not the big things that make all the difference. It’s the little things done with excellence and consistency.

The key to success is simple but will require the development of 3 distinct habits.

1. Master the 80/20 rule. Only about 20% of a persons activities produce 80% of their most valuable results. The key is to identify which 20% and do as much of that as you can possibly do.

2. Become exactingly consistent. The enemy of success is inertia. If you don’t do your 20% activities with exacting consistency it becomes very difficult to start them again because anything at rest wants to stay at rest. The drip, drip, drip keeps the activities in motion. I recommend establishing a minimum baseline of high value activity that you commit to doing every day, not matter where you are or what is happening.

2. Get better at getting better. It’s not enough to achieve competency at your 20%. You have to figure out how to become a champion at it.

It takes wisdom to discern which activities will produce the greatest value and it takes courage to avoid doing everything else.

The mistake many make is trying to be all things to all things and therefore dilute themselves and give away their power to transform the world and their families future. Their legacy dies before it ever has a chance to live.

That’s why every professional needs a coach to help them get crystal clear on where they are headed, convicted about why they are headed there and to build a simple repeatable strategy to get them there.

You’re a fool if think you don’t need a coach. Every professional needs a coach. Coaches help professionals become champions at who they are and what they do.

Until you get a coach to help you tap more of your potential you’ll simply plod along and in 20 years find yourself going with the flow just getting by trapped in the herd

Until that happens you will likely just get by while wondering why.

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